Archive for January, 2011

  • What’s after graduation? Panic!

    I’ve written for The Guardian’s comment is free on the rising levels of youth unemployment.

    ‘I’ll let you in on a little secret – I’m terrified of graduating. The growing youth unemployment rates have loomed in the back of my mind for a while now and I’ve sat snugly in the student bubble for almost three years. Very soon, I’ll have to take those tentative steps out into the real world.

    It’s not the early mornings or the daily grind I’m worried about. Instead, I wonder if I’ll get the opportunity to face those in the first place. After my graduation, I had planned to apply for a master’s degree, but postgraduate funding, which was already thin on the ground, has just received another blow with the coalition hinting at slashing funding for postgraduate courses….’

    Read the rest here!

  • The New Banter

    Somewhere along the line, I think I must have missed the news of the International Bigot Alliance conference – that annual event where the world’s inconsiderate, ignorant and uncaring convene to discuss new and innovative ways to simultaneously keep the disadvantaged down, whilst defending the status quo.

    Having come to the general consensus that their views were likely to cause offense when overtly and directly expressed, the International Bigot Alliance were faced with a dilemma- how could they disguise their inherently racist, sexist, homophobic and ableist views? And how could they do this in such in which they could successfully blame the victims of their bullying if they dared to take offence?

    And so, the term ‘banter’ was born.

    Don’t get the New Banter confused with the original meaning of the word. There was a rose-tinted, nostalgic time when banter meant an exchange of light, playful remarks, and good-natured raillery. But the New Banter couldn’t be further than that definition. Instead, it’s used as a cover up to bully and intimidate, and as a tool to assert privilege over those who are less advantaged.

    The New Banter gleefully stagnates in its own regressive ideals, then spits them out in the form of ugly jokes, hoping that nobody will notice.

    Pioneers of the New Banter will call you humorless, fun-hating, or ‘too serious’ when you object to their ignorant bullying. Don’t be fooled into thinking that members of the International Bigot Alliance only manifest themselves as your enemies, either – they can be your friends, family, co-workers or colleagues, all united by their dedication to your belittlement. You could brush it off, or you could acknowledge the fact that if these people really cared about you, they would at least take your feelings into consideration before they thoughtlessly spouted their hate disguised as jokes. If they ‘didn’t really mean it’-  why did they say it? If you’re ‘taking it the wrong way’- what is the right way? Pick them up on it and watch them try to derail your argument, busy shifting the issue so they don’t have to face up to the facts. As the realisation of their ignorance begins to kick in, they’ll flounder completely. This can be depressingly amusing.

    Most importantly, stay alert, because as it stands, the facebook group entitled ‘justifying completely inappropriate and unacceptable as banter’ has 179,113 members and counting.

    Even it was ‘just a joke’ and they ‘didn’t really mean it’, the joke was constructed to belittle, provoke, and anger you. The intent was entirely malicious, insidiously spiteful  – and that’s probably what they meant when they insisted that you were taking it the wrong way. Either way, it doesn’t look good.

    N.B- The International Bigot Alliance may not actually exist

  • On digital equality…

    Netroots UK’s digital equality session had so much potential, but the real flaws of the session could be found in the clumsy phrasing of this paragraph, that could be found both online and in the schedule pack on the day :

    Women have a high internet usage, but when it comes to politics and campaigning women are few and far between. Something about online campaigning seems to turn women off and there’s a digital divide as a result.  So if the answer isn’t simply for women to grow a thicker skin, how can progressive campaigners better engage women online? How can women survive the dog eat dog world of political blogging or tweeting without feeling they have to join in the game? Which online campaigns, issues and online spaces might attract more women to get engaged?’

    To ask these questions room filled to the brim with politically active women was incredulously patronising. We ARE engaged, we ARE surviving, and we ARE involved in online campaigns. It’s not that we’re NOT there- but there’s a tendency to organise away from websites where we’re likely to be on the receiving end of misogyny.

    The session also saw the release of pent up and righteous rage about the misogynistic nature of comments on forums such as the Guardian’s Comment is Free. If you want a reason why women tend to post away from the big online forums, there’s a pretty concrete answer. And if this is one of the main reasons, surely the solution isn’t – ‘women, grow a thicker skin!’, but rather- ‘trolls, stop baiting women!’

    Inevitably, the session evolved into both speakers and audience members expressing frustration at how questions like these just leave women activists going around in annoying circles, never making any progress, forever stunted at the ‘engagement’ question.

    Given the nature of the moot points that were proposed, it wasn’t surprising when Lisa Ansell, Laurie Penny and Jess McCabe all pointed out, repeatedly, that women are already engaged politically online.

    Laurie hit the nail on the head when she pointed out that that engaging women does not mean shovelling them away at the top of the building to wring their hands about how much they’re supposedly not doing.

    Lisa stressed that women are politically active all over the net- just not in the obvious places, like the top 4 political blogs.

    Jess showed the room the website she edits- The F Word – which is full of posts by politically active, campaigning women.

    Why, then, are we still discussing engagement?

    I am genuinely confused.

     

  • Guest post: I am an octopus

    My friend Belinda Mellor originally wrote this piece as part of her rhetoric module at university. It has been written to be read out loud, as a speech- and I thought it was too good not to share. True food for thought. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I did!

    Thesis: that the vilification of single mothers is unjustified.

    Allow me to tell you a little about myself.  I am an octopus. A mature single octopus; I work hard and my eight arms ensure that multi-tasking works for me.  Let me explain.  The female Giant Pacific Octopus blows clean water over its new laid eggs in order that they may survive, for the last time before it dies.  Although perhaps not quite as self sacrificing as the Giant Pacific Octopus, as a mature student and a single mother of three, I work hard.

    Yet some people, even some of those in power view single parents negatively.  That is what I would like to tell you about.  I want to talk to you about my support for single parents and in particular for the nine out of ten who are single mothers.

    My own experience of being a single parent began at the age of 26.  My partner and I separated after five years together, and a particularly sad time in my life was spent in the company of my three small children.  Solitary evenings sewing pump bags by candlelight were compensated for by sunny days in the park, punctuated with laughter and choral pleas for ice-cream.

    But not every day is sunny.  An isolated existence together with an atmosphere of negativity can surreptitiously envelope a single mother’s identity and destroy her sense of citizenship.

    The vilification of single mothers is a mistake; an act which says more about the critic than the criticised.  Single mothers are a group upon whom it is easy to lay the blame for the ills of society.  Overloaded with responsibilities, without support and frequently without means they are often unable to speak out in defence.  This public and medieval witch hunt is narrow-minded, misleading and misogynistic.   Any government which finds itself drawn to this argument should stop, look at the statistics and then take time to talk to some of the most maligned in society.  When that government speaks to those people and reports back to a nation, then perhaps, they will receive 1.5 million more votes.

    From my own perspective as a single mother of three in the 1990’s I felt personally on the receiving end of John Major’s rallying cry to the masses which repeatedly implicated people in my situation as single- handedly responsible for the dire state of the nation.  An idea which had very little of course to do with his predecessor’s political encouragement of the young, upwardly mobile professional for whom money was everything and dog eat dog was ideology anthropomorphically reified.

    John Major in his wisdom presented his ‘Back to Basics’ campaign in 1993, which was meant to lead Britain backwards to a time more pure, more safe, and more secure in what he called ‘Family Values’.  The idea rooted firmly in 1950’s Britain was more about the safety and surety of nostalgia.   Things certainly look better when we think back but often that is simply the human desire to privilege romance over reality.  More honestly we can look back to a time when the health benefits of smoking were proposed, when the social benefits of hanging were realised, when homosexuality was an imprisonable offence and when marital rape was not a crime but a right.

    John Major was however, outed by the catalogue of sleaze thrown up by his party and later lambasted for his own affair retrospectively admitted.  ‘Back to Basics’ was discredited and became a topic of salacious media amusement but not before the antithesis of family and democracy was revealed as the ‘single mother’.

    In 1996 my three small children and I survived happily on government benefits.   One of the accusations laid at the feet of single mothers on handouts is: why aren’t they working?   Let me illustrate my own experience in reply.  My weekly allowance entitled and enabled me to work for fifteen hours a week as a cleaner; a manageable position when sole responsibility for school and nursery timetabling was a work of art in itself.  After having had depression as a teenager and without any discernable skills I was on benefits in order to survive financially and to secure a stable home life for my children in their early years.

    Once my youngest child started school I was able to take the college courses necessary to work towards my current degree study.  Poverty had ensured I was never in debt but I was also desperate to jump free of the revolving hamster wheel of my existence; seemingly going nowhere, every day.

    Yet young women are accused of bringing about this situation on purpose simply to acquire a home.   Can it really be that simple?  Left with no educational achievements, little self esteem and zero opportunities, the place society says is rightly hers might become achievable for a disengaged young girl by simply becoming pregnant.  And if so, if, by becoming pregnant a young girl could feel like there is something she can do as opposed to her living an ineffectual existence, might she not begin her own life.  And in doing so, might she not be understood?

    Society or government may wish it were not so and in such cases should create a space for education and opportunity in order that young girls might find a future for themselves which engendered more control and opportunity.

    Politicians in large homes, vaulted to positions of power and autonomy by a ruling hierarchy established centuries ago, might do well to realise that life choices are often not just between good and bad but also between the better of two evils. David Cameron’s move to tax-break marriage to the tune of £150 a year might be seen as a shallow mirror in which to view his own lack of insight to shifts in society, not necessarily ruinous.

    Most single parents, mothers and fathers find themselves in this position through the effects of divorce.  The Office for National Statistics states that the majority of the adult population are married but that almost half of those will divorce within ten years.  The children born within those marriages could explain the statistic which states that the proportion of children living in one parent families has more than tripled in Great Britain in the last 30 years.

    Since 1971 to 2005 the amount of people living alone has more than doubled; it is a fact of a changing society that children will be brought up in single parent households and although children may fare better in multi adult families, this simply does not mean that single parents should be criticised for living in a situation requested by society.  Instead they should be supported and admired for their place in a society which has demanded and continues to demand freedom for all.

    Changes taking place during the 20th century have meant greater independence for women who can now decide to live alone with or without children.  Women have always been targets for public opprobrium and continue to attract negative press; take for example women who choose to wait until they are older to have children, who are often portrayed as self serving career women.   The facts speak more clearly; the average age for giving birth shows a steady rise; in 2009 it was 29.   Similarly under attack are women who have children much later in life; fertility in the 35 – 40+ age group also continues to increase and although financially and emotionally secure their decision often attracts public angst and derision.

    In a society where 15,700 civil partnerships occurred within a year of its 2005 inception and in a society where a male pop star and his husband can have a child by a surrogate mother with a donor egg, it is perhaps time that the sticky subject of disregard for single mothers is dropped like a melting ice cream on a hot summers day.

    Just like the Giant Pacific Octopus I would sacrifice everything for my own three children.  They have grown into mature, caring young people studying in further education and for whom time spent together is treasured.

    Having my children, on my own, has been a revelation for me; I was that girl whose life began when she had her children.  They have taught me so much and I continue to learn about myself from them.  So, if you hear narratives which state that being a single parent is marginal, not worthwhile, I hope you will think again and support those who bring up children alone.

    Belinda Mellor

  • The top ten posts of 2010

    2010 was a good year for No Comment– the blog gained unexpected recognition from Channel 4 News in the form of a high commendation in their Best Young Blogger of the year competition, and, as a result, also gained a deluge of new and inquisitive readers.

    Last year there’s been somewhat heated debates sparked in the comments section (which is always the main goal of a post), as well as links to popular posts on this blog from popular websites such as The F Word, The Guardian, and renowned political blogger Iain Dale.

    This is essentially a nothing post, but I wanted to write something to commerate the past year. I give you- this blog’s top 10 posts of 2010!

    Thank you all for reading, and happy new year 🙂

    10. Hands up if you feel betrayed!

    Written in June, little did I know that this blog post foresaw a mass movement of students later in the year, unified in outrage at blatant political betrayal.

    9.  Many happy returns, Hef

    Thoughts on general opinion of Playboy lothario Hugh Hefner’s latest engagement.

    8.  Take one for the team?

    It was an overlooked event on BBC’s The Apprentice, involving eventual winner Stella English, that inspired this post.

    7. Do lads’ mags belong in student unions?

    Written as part of a debate for Pluto Online,  this post puts forward the case for the removal of lads’ mags from university student unions.

    6.  Don’t lose your head in all the protest hype!

    One of many blog posts on the subject of the ongoing student protests. However, on  reflection, I’ve changed my mind on occupations and walk outs- if a university’s vice chacellor or management are supporting cuts and higher fees, students are left with little choice.

    5.  The English Defence League in Preston- a personal account

    The dreaded English Defence League decided to make their presence known in Preston on November 27th. Plenty of us counter protested- this post was the write up.

    4.  What exactly happened at Demo 2010?

    The second post concerning the student protests, written in response to the vilifying nature of the mainstream press coverage.

    3.  A quick dissection of the English Defence League

    The English Defence League annoy me immensely. This post analyses their arguments and reveals why they’re nonsensical.

    2. The problem with pro-feminist men

    Why is it men get infinitely more kudos for positively commenting on feminist issues than women ever do?

    1.  Please stop trivialising rape!

    In at number one- a post that was originated as a rant about the treatment of the accusers in the Assange case from media and public alike. Popularised via twitter, I was pretty glad that so many people agreed!